i sat down to write this post last night and started it twice. then just went to bed. i have debated what to say, how much detail to give, and if i should wait a week or so to even share what's going on.
i will try to be short and to the point when i tell this story. sometimes my stories can be long, i don't ever want to leave anything out! :)
when we adopted quincy sean and i said that in a year we would start the process again to adopt another baby. you never know how long it will take (the whole process w/ q, start to finish, was 9 months), especially once you have 1, we've been told it can be less likey for mothers to pick your family. i don't know if that is necessarily true though. anyway, 6 weeks ago (exactly) sean and i submitted our papers to sherie. (we worked with sherie last time. she owned no greater gift adoptions and she has now joined mother goose adoptions.) it was no big deal to get our papers done this time around, it only took us a few days. i still needed to do our profile for the birth mothers to see, and we needed to get our home study in too. we just told sherie, submit our papers and we will get that stuff to you in the next few weeks. we were in no hurry.
SIX days after we gave her our papers i got a call from sherie. she said, "i need a copy of the first few pages of your tax forms from 2008, and have you called craig to get your home study to me?" i said no, but that i would in the next few days. she said, "okay. i think we have a baby for you.".... she told me there was a baby in FL that was 3 weeks old and for whatever reason the mother was wanting to place him. it was an agency pick (meaning the birth mom wanted them to choose the family) and sherie wanted to know if we were interested. she told me all the info she had. a day later she said the mom wanted to see a few families and that they were going to havea conference call with the mother to get her paperwork done. we hurried to get our home study done.
after the conference call that the agency had with the birth mom in FL, they never heard from her again. we were fine about it. it was such a whirlwind and i think we were in shock still when it was over with. the reason i told you about those few days is because right after it happened i said to my mom that i think that happened to us to tell us that we could get a baby sooner then we think and we need to be ready.
here is a little more background. sean and i specified that we wanted a boy this time around.(one of the perks in adopting.) this is the reason. we want to have more children, whether we adopt or have them naturally. and we definitely want at least one boy and one girl. obviously we cant choose what we have if i am pregnant, so we are taking advantage of being able to choose. we also said we wanted an africanamerican. we think it will be good for quincy and also, it is less expensive. A LOT less expensive. and don;t even get me started on that! it seriously should be illegal i think. so, because we were gender specific and race specific, that is another reason we have been expecting to wait a while.
2 1/2 weeks ago, on march 8th i got an email from deb (mother goose agency owner). she said that she knew our budget was special beginnings (black babies and babies with disabilities, nice right? like i said, don't get me started!) but she wanted to tell us about these 2 biracial boys....she told us where they were, when they would be born, and how much. and if we were open to biracial that she could lower the fees a little, but it wasn't enough to make us be able to do it. sean and i talked about it and emailed her back saying that we were open to biracial, but not to the cost. and if she couldn't match either of the boys with families then we would be happy to pay the SB fees and be considered. her reply, as we expected was, "yeah, we just can't do that....." right.
(so much for keeping this short and to the point....you can stop reading if you are bored or lost. but you may regret it! :))
a week after that email, sherie called us. she said that
the mother of the biracial boy in indiana has not picked a family. she said deb had 2 more families to show the mother but that deb was still really wanting to show this mom our profile. sherie said she wasn't sure if deb just wanted more options for
the mother to choose from, OR if deb thought that the mother would choose
us. then came the news that changed it all!! deb agreed to give us the lower fees. this NEVER happens, we
are shocked. sherie told me she was surprised too. she gave us more
information on the situation and sean and i thought and talked it over that night. the next morning i called sherie back and told her to go ahead and show this mother our
profile.
( the birth mother's name is christina. she got our profile on march 21st. we got a call from beckichristina's case worker) on monday saying christina had not picked us, but that she wanted to have a conference call with me on tuesday, march 24th. on our conference call, we talked for an hour. about her kids, her pregnancies (this will be her 4th pregnancy), her cravings, about where she lives, and just random things. i told her more about us of course too. it was not a deep conversation, but it was easy and light. becki had told me the day before that christina was serious about finding the right home for this baby. she wanted to KNOW and have a FEELING that a certain family was the perfect fit. we got off the phone and i knew that becki wouldn't get back with christina until the net day. i got off the phone and told sean everything that we had said (for some reason she wasn't comfortable talking to both of us, so sean was left out.) i told him that she seemed happy to talk to me and that seemed comfortable, but i could tell what her decision would be. i had no idea.
yesterday was a long day, just waiting to hear back. sean said he thought she would choose us. i wasn't sure. i really had no feeling either way. i hoped she would. but i didn't have a strong feeling that this was our baby. i also never had a bad feeling or confused feeling about this baby and mother either- it's been weird.
finally at 5:15 i received an emaill notice on my phone. i opened it up and the first line said, "Congrats on your match with Christina!".....sean came up the stairs just then and i said, "look at this email i just got." not leading on that it was anything exciting. we were both shocked!
we can't believe it took only 6 weeks to be matched. it is really amazing. we feel really blessed and know that this baby is supposed to be in our family, there is no doubt. it is not just lucky that we got our paper work and home study done when we did. it's not just lucky that deb made it so we could afford this particular adoption. interesting that i complained about the conference i went to partly because it was about biracial kids. :) we really feel like this short process has been very guided.
oh, and i have left out the biggest shocker of all! christina is being induced next saturday, april 4th. i'm dead serious. so quincy's birthday is this saturday, march 28th. we will celebrate then next week we will be packing and getting ready to fly our little family to indiana to pick up our newest member! wish us luck and pray for christina. she of course has her agency and it is a tough, tough thing to sign those papers.
p.s. i bought a blue blanket today. :) and give us name suggestions if you have any!
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